Building Trans Power & Beyond Trans 101

By Stevie St. John

From the outside, the Willoughby building looks like a West Hollywood apartment complex. But once you’re buzzed in, you cross the threshold of a building that houses a motley mix of offices.

In one sun-dappled former apartment is the headquarters of Gender Justice Los Angeles (GJLA, formerly FTM Alliance), an organization that works “build the power” of the transgender community in Los Angeles.

“There’s something about local work that feels powerful,” says Rodrigo Lehtinen, the organization’s membership director. Lehtinen initially moved to Los Angeles to work with a national organization, but said he “really wanted to do local work with my people.” In 2011, he joined GJLA’s staff.

In addition to offering support groups for trans* people and their loved ones, GJLA does trans advocacy work. For example, several GJLA members were among activists who signed and delivered a petition to the L.A. Times to protest its coverage of Cassidy Vickers’ death. (GLAAD and some trans community members met with Times staff member earlier this month to discuss the Times story.)

L.A.’s trans community has won some important victories with regard to how trans people are treated by law enforcement officers. Previously, trans people who were arrested were housed based on their genitals, which Lehtinen says led to “drastically unsafe conditions.” Last year, L.A. became the first city in the country to allocate a pod of cells for people who self-identify as trans.

GJLA also offers “Theatre of the Oppressed” workshops that help trans people and their allies build leadership and advocacy skills. During these interactive Sunday afternoon workshops, people can discuss things that have happened to them. Then participants are assigned parts in a role playing exercise to explore possible strategies.

For example, a student might share that she is having trouble with a teacher who refuses to call her by female pronouns. The student hasn’t yet been able to legally change her name and gender markers, and the teacher insists on using the name listed on the school’s official paperwork.

In a Theatre of the Oppressed session, one person will take on the role of the student. Another will be the teacher. And others will be the trans woman’s classmates. They’ll act out a scenario, periodically stopping with “freeze frames” for the group to discuss options. What could the trans woman say to advocate for herself? How could her classmates show their support for her?

Lehtinen said the idea of the workshops is to “be real and honest about emotions and what you can do to advocate for yourself.” It’s about finding ways to speak up for yourself and your friends. Lehtinen stresses that, while allies are welcome, participants should already be knowledgeable about trans issues.

 

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Beyond 101

The idea of going beyond a “Trans 101” understanding has been on my mind lately. Working alongside trans activists at the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center (including GJLA board president Drian Juarez), I learned a lot about the issues that affect trans people’s lives, such as rampant employment discrimination and alarming rates of hate violence. I got a grip on terminology, such as the difference between sex and gender.

But as I recently read Julia Serano’s Whipping Girl A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity, in which she talks about the complexity of her own experience with gender, I thought about the fact that my education on trans issues still has gaps that I should strive to fill.

For example, I recently spent time learning about the Center’s Transgender Health Program. I knew that some trans people take hormones as part of their transitioning process, but until I watched the Center videos with Dr. Maddie Deutsch explaining the effects of hormones on trans women and trans men, I didn’t know much about how the “second puberty” patients experience and the specific effects of the hormones. (Serano also talks about her experience with hormones in Whipping Girl.)

Another recent read for me was Two Spirits, One Heart. Author Marsha Aizumi (whose Spectrum Q&A you can read here) kindly presented me with a review copy. I can’t exactly give an objective take–not only is the book is by and about folks I know, I’m actually mentioned in it. But I will say that reading it gave me insight into a family member’s perspective as Aizumi shares the journey she and her family experienced when her son, Aiden, transitioned to male.

I’m excited that the visibility of trans issues seems to be increasing. Chaz Bono’s transition (as well as his book, documentary and his turn on Dancing with the Stars) is one example of an activist raising public awareness. But I am wary of one media story after another–many with incorrect pronoun use–focused on trans people using bathrooms and locker rooms.

I hope we’re headed for a deeper social understanding of  trans issues. And I hope that Lehtinen, who penned this Guardian item, is correct when he assesses trans rights as “the next big political movement.”

For more information about GJLA, visit the organization’s website or follow GJLA on Facebook. For more information about GJLA’s Theatre of the Oppressed workshops, email gjlatheatreoftheoppressed@gmail.com.

*I’m using the term trans in an effort to refer as inclusively as possible to those who are transsexual, transgender, gender-nonconforming or otherwise identify as part of the trans community.  

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CONNECT: LGBTQ events in the Los Angeles area

By Stevie St. John

Looking for ways to connect with your community? Here’s a roundup of upcoming LGBTQ and other fun local events:

  • Music Makers & Shakers – L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center’s Los Angeles Women’s Network (L.A.W.N.)
    Tuesday, April 23musicFrom the event Facebook page:Join us for a panel of talented women succeeding in the music business with musical performances afterwards in the courtyard. 

 

 

 

  • Door-to-Door Marriage Equality Canvass - L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center’s Vote for Equality program
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    From the event Facebook page:

    Depending on the Supreme Court, we may be facing another massive battle on marriage in California in 2014. Join us as we go door to door to talk to voters about same-sex marriage, learn how to change hearts and minds and test out TV ads to find out what will and won’t work over the airwaves in the next election … We’ll feed you and provide an extensive training – no experience necessary. All you need to bring is you!

 

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  • Gay Day & May Day at the Renaissance Pleasure Faire
    Saturday, May 4 – Santa Fe Dam Recreation Area
    Faire open through May 19
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For more events, visit the Spectrum Los Angeles calendarTo suggest an event for the calendar, email spectrumlosangeles@gmail.com.


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Roundup 4/20: LGBTQ News, Features & More

By Stevie St. John

A snapshot of LGBTQ news, features and tidbits from this week on the web:

Los Angeles & California

 

  • A Long Beach lesbian couple won a lawsuit against a Hawaii bed and breakfast that refused to provide them a room.

 

 

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CONNECT: LGBTQ Events in the Los Angeles Area

By Stevie St. John

Looking for ways to connect with your community? Here’s a roundup of upcoming LGBTQ and other fun local events:

 

  • GLAAD Media Awards
    Saturday, April 20- JW Marriottglaad_ladrewbarrymorehostGLAAD recently announced that actress Drew Barrymore will host its Los Angeles Media Awards, which will include a special performance by Kelly Rowland. Leonardo DiCarpioCharlize Theron and Jennifer Lawrence will also be featured.

 

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For more information or to get tickets, visit the event webpage.

 

  • Los Angeles Times Festival of Books
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    Spend a fun-filled weekend at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books on April 20 and 21 at USC. Get to know famous authors and celebrities, see culinary greats create their latest recipes, catch screenings and live music, enjoy cultural entertainment and much more.

    LGBT-interest events at the festival include a cooking demonstration by out chef Susan Feniger and an interview with lesbian graphic novelist Alison Bechdel (in conversation with Joy Press). You can see the festival schedule online here.

 

  • CicLAvia – To the Sea
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    From the event website:

    CicLAvia makes the streets  safe for people to walk, skate, play and ride a bike. There are activities along the route. Shop owners and restaurants are encouraged to open their doors to people along the CicLAvia … Connecting communities and giving people a break from the stress of car traffic.

 

  • Music Makers & Shakers – L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center’s Los Angeles Women’s Network (L.A.W.N.)
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    From the event Facebook page:

    Join us for a panel of talented women succeeding in the music business with musical performances afterwards in the courtyard. 

 

 

 

From the event Facebook page:

Depending on the Supreme Court, we may be facing another massive battle on marriage in California in 2014. Join us as we go door to door to talk to voters about same-sex marriage, learn how to change hearts and minds and test out TV ads to find out what will and won’t work over the airwaves in the next election … We’ll feed you and provide an extensive training – no experience necessary. All you need to bring is you!

 

For more events, visit the Spectrum Los Angeles calendar.To suggest an event for the calendar, email spectrumlosangeles@gmail.com.


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Roundup 4/13: APLA Benefit Raises $285k; Center’s Simply diVine & More!

By Stevie St. John

A snapshot of LGBTQ news, features and tidbits from this week on the web:

Los Angeles & Southern California

  • The L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center‘s Simply diVine fundraiser was held on April 7 at Melrose Place. You can see more pics in the event photo album on Facebook.

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    Celeb chef Susan Feniger serves samples at Simply diVine, an afternoon of food, wine, beer and spirits.

 

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CONNECT: LGBTQ events in the Los Angeles area

By Stevie St. John

Looking for ways to connect with your community? Here’s a roundup of upcoming LGBTQ and other fun local events:

     

  • Legendary Bingo – Benefit for AIDS/LifeCycle
    Tuesday, April 9 – Hamburger Mary’s in West Hollywood
     
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    From the event Facebook page:
     
    Instinct Magazine is proud to help kick-off Legendary Bingo’s 15th anniversary extravaganza with a extra-special TUESDAY night of bingo—benefiting AIDS/LifeCycle!
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  • API LGBT Storytelling Workshop – API Equality LA 
    Sunday, April 14 - First Floor of the Asian Pacific American Legal Center
     
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    From API Equality-LA:
     
    In an effort to create more accessible, culturally relevant resources for the API LGBT community, API Equality-LA has been working to build a “Coming Out Website” specifically designed for those who identify as API and LGBT. This website will be the first of its kind, and a large component of it will involve showcasing personal accounts of coming out experiences. This is where you come in!We at APIELA have organized a Storytelling Workshop to help individuals in the Asian Pacific Islander community share their varied coming out experiences. We hope to foster community and support for those who are seeking resources, as well as create a platform through which people can share their unique stories. … The workshop will be hosted by Noel Alumit, an Asian American writer and novelist of Filipino descent.
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  • Frontiers Birthday Bash 
    Saturday, April 20 – Abbey Food & Bar
     
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  • GLAAD Media Awards
    Saturday, April 20- JW Marriott
     
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    In addition to the honorees, the event will feature Leonardo DiCarpio, Charlize Theron and Jennifer Lawrence 

 

 

 

 

For more events, visit the Spectrum Los Angeles calendar.To suggest an event for the calendar, email spectrumlosangeles@gmail.com.


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Roundup 4/6: An event-full L.A. weekend, LGBTQ seniors on video; & more!

By Stevie St. John
  
A snapshot of LGBTQ news, features and tidbits from this week on the web:
  
Los Angeles & Southern California
 

I’ll share pics from some of these community events next week!

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CONNECT: LGBTQ Events in the Los Angeles Area

By Stevie St. John

Looking for ways to connect with your community? Here’s a roundup of upcoming LGBTQ and other fun local events:

 

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From the event Facebook page:  
 
Depending on the Supreme Court, we may be facing another massive battle on marriage in California in 2014. Expressing our support at this huge moment in history is great, but it won’t be enough, and the movement for full LGBT equality needs all of us right now. Join us as we go door to door to talk to voters about same-sex marriage, learning how to change hearts and minds and test out TV ads to find out what will and won’t work over the airwaves in the next election.

 

 

  • Simply diVine, benefiting the L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center
    Sunday, April 7 – Melrose Place
     
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    The L.A. Gay & Lesbian Center‘s annual food, wine and spirits sampling event returns to Melrose Place and moves to Sunday afternoon.

 

 

  • GLAAD Media Awards
    Saturday, April 20- JW Marriott
     
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    From GLAAD:
     
    The Board of Directors of GLAAD and President Herndon Graddick invite you to celebrate the most outstanding images of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community in the media at the largest, most visible LGBT gala in the nation, the GLAAD Media Awards! The GLAAD Media Awards bring celebrities, corporate partners, media professionals, and young adults together in support of GLAAD’s mission to amplify the voice of the LGBT community and achieve full equality!

 

 

 

 

 

For more events, visit the Spectrum Los Angeles calendar.To suggest an event for the calendar, email spectrumlosangeles@gmail.com.


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Roundup 3/30: SCOTUS & Marriage Equality, Arizona’s Bathroom Bill & More

By Stevie St. John

A snapshot of LGBTQ news, features and tidbits from this week on the web:

Los Angeles & Southern California

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A rally and vigil for marriage equality at L.A. City Hall on March 24. Organizers estimated that about 400 people participated.  

 

 

 

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  • For some reason, some people have a weird–to the point of their interest seeming prurient, even–obsession with which bathrooms transgender people (and specifically trans women) use. In Arizona, a “softened” anti-trans “bathroom bill”  passed in a House panel. It would no longer make it illegal to use a restroom not in alignment with one’s birth sex, but it would protect individual businesses that bar trans people from using restrooms consistent with their gender identity.
     
    Seriously, what is everyone’s problem about bathrooms? I generally just walk to and from my stall, wash my hands and leave, without taking much of an interest in/worry about who’s in the next stall or who’s checking her hair in the mirror over the next sink. The people who panic about this issue seem to always raise the completely imagined specter of harm to cisgender women and children. (They are less afraid of trans men, evidently, as there’s less concern about men’s rooms). But for five years, I worked at the world’s largest LGBT organization (which issued this statement), and lots of trans people worked there and/or turned there for services. I used the restrooms (often the women’s and sometimes the gender-neutral restrooms) hundreds of times and lived to tell the tale. If there were any secret trans gangs organizing covert bathroom attacks, I surely would have encountered them during that time. But I was perfectly safe! FALSE ALARM, AMERICA! Seriously, the idea that we should all be afraid of trans women–who are in fact the victims of physical violence at an alarming rate–is not in any way rooted in reality. Let’s just let people pee already!

 

  • Also in Arizona, Thomas Beatie (who is still being called “the pregnant man” despite the fact that the pregnancy he’s famous for ended a long time ago) was denied a divorce. The judge said Beatie failed to “prove” that he is a trans man at the time he and his wife wed–leading the judge to question the validity of the marriage.

 

  • Some sites are referring to “HIV quarantine” in connection with a Kansas bill, but a state epidemiologist says that is not the intent of the bill and specifically states that an HIV/AIDS quarantine would not be legal.

 

 

 

 

 


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At a Crossroads: Coming Out, Labels & the Choices that Shape Our Lives

By Stevie St. John

In one of my favorite episodes of Ellen, the titular Ellen Morgan (Ellen DeGeneres), faces an interesting choice. But not the choice she’s famous for, when she kicked open the closet door in a watershed moment for media portrayals of LGBTQ people.

This choice comes after Ellen has accepted her attraction to women, started coming out to friends and family as a lesbian, and going on dates with women. When she shares a kiss with ex-boyfriend Dan, her new identity is thrown into question. Her feelings for women are a given at this point, but was she too quick to rule out relationships with men? Here’s where the choice comes in: what is she going to do?

Ellen’s first instinct is to flee the question with a quip—“The whole men’s department was liquidated after years of declining sales.” —but her friend Peter urges her to be open to exploring her feelings. She decides to be open to the possibility of Dan (who is aware of what’s going on), so she tests the waters with him. The sparks aren’t real, and Ellen’s identity as a lesbian is confirmed.

Similarly, viewers watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer’s Willow Rosenberg (Alyson Hannigan) reach a crossroads when her first love, musician-slash-werewolf Oz, returns to Sunnydale just as her romance with Tara begins to blossom. At this juncture, it’s clear that Willow has real feelings for both Oz and Tara. Her choice isn’t about liking men exclusively or liking women exclusively. Her choice is about has to do with her relationships to two specific people, a guy who is her first love and a woman who’s leading her to question her sexuality.

I love this episode, which puts Oz and Tara on equal footing—Oz himself recognizes Tara as a rival for Willow’s affection—but something about its resolution feels a little unsatisfying. Oz and Willow realize a reunion isn’t feasible because his anger and jealousy set off the lupine instincts he’s been struggling to rein in, and which had led him to leave in the first place. Their parting is very sweet, but Oz’s werewolf relapse seems to give Willow an out by making this difficult choice for her. Still, the episode ends with a key choice for the character; she declares her love for Tara and cements their relationship.

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Tara and Willow on Buffy The Vampire Slayer

During this episode, it seems clear that Willow has an attraction to both Oz and Tara. However, after pursuing a relationship with Tara, Willow is referred to and identifies as a lesbian – “gay now,” she’ll say—rather than bisexual for the rest of the series. This seems like a reinterpretation of her relationship with Oz as well as her longtime crush on and high school dalliances with Xander.

On Grey’s Anatomy, Dr. Callie Torres (Sara Ramirez) initially seems befuddled by the fact she is attracted to both men and women. After sexual encounters with her friend Mark and her first female love interest, Erica, Callie says, “I guess I thought that there should be a difference.” (Incidentally, none of my bisexual friends have described sex with men and women as “not different.” But I guess the point for Callie is that she’s surprised that she enjoys being with women and men equally—establishing her as a middle-of-the-Kinsey-scale bisexual.) Callie decides she’s open to finding love with women, and eventually the character marries lesbian character Dr. Arizona Robbins (Jessica Capshaw). The two are raising a daughter Callie conceived with Mark during a time she and Arizona had broken up.

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Arizona and Callie tie the knot on Grey’s Anatomy

I loved watching these stories unfold on screen and seeing the characters make choices. They aren’t choosing their sexual orientation or attractions, of course. But they are making choices about their lives. They choose whether to honestly explore their feelings; they choose whether they’re open to finding love with someone unexpected; they choose whether to apply a label to their identity and, if so, what label to use.

Regardless of the more fantastical story elements that frame these choices—vampires and werewolves on Buffy, a mass murder and a disastrous plane crash on the soapy Grey’s—these characters’ stories resonate. The characters grapple with some of the same questions real LGBTQ people face as we come out to ourselves and to others.

Queer ladies know actress Clementine Ford from her role on The L Word and as the former squeeze of music producer Linda Perry. (Ford is also the daughter of Cybill Shepherd.) Like many of us, she navigated a coming out path that wasn’t a totally straightforward one. She sort of came out—I say “sort of” because she herself objected to the interview being characterized that way, not because I think there is a “correct” way to come out—and then adopted the label lesbian. But for all their value in discussing who we are, sometimes labels can be confining, and eventually this one didn’t fit her. Here’s an excerpt from an entry in her blog, The Dog Ate My Antidepressants, in which Ford writes about falling for a man:

At first I tried to ignore my feelings because they didn’t make any sense. Then I tried to flat out deny them because I didn’t want to have them. Then I finally gave in because people kept reminding me that “the heart wants what the heart wants”. Most people float on pink clouds in the beginning and lose sleep thinking about their new person. I lost sleep because I knew that I would have to “come out” all over again.

I DO know that when I came out as a lesbian it was my truth. It still is, though now I prefer queer. I never saw the possibility of ever being with a man again. The idea was repulsive to me. What was I supposed to say?

 

A lot of people have opinions about what Ford should have said and what she should have done; in the blog post I linked above, she talks about some of the vitriol that’s been directed at her. But she made the choice to be open to love with someone unexpected—what’s wrong with that?

That’s the same choice I made when I came out. I chose to be honest with myself; I chose to be open to love; and, once I had found that love, I grappled with what label I chose for myself.

I’ve made other significant choices, too. In fact, I wanted to chart out how my choices, in tandem with events outside of my control, shaped my life. I pictured this creating a complex web. However, as I wrote down event after event, I found that most of the life events I thought of were actually my choices.

Of course, all of those choices took place in the context of things that happened to me or in my environment. I was born in a certain place at a certain time; I had certain opportunities; I faced certain prejudices; I met certain people and was exposed to certain ideas. But looking back, it is the times that I encountered a crossroads— a chance to embrace one path and leave another behind – that seem most vital in leading to the life I lived today. Someone told me once, during a time I was struggling with regret, that “your feet would not be here if your feet had not been there.” The path I walked, and the directions I chose I chose at each crossroads—those things brought me here.

I may not have always made the “right” decision (if there was a “right” and “wrong” one), but I love that I had the right and the opportunity to make them. They were my choices—mostly. I mean, I grew up in a particular social environment that informed how I thought about my choices. I have a particular genetic makeup that doubtlessly affects my choices in ways I don’t consciously perceive.

I think genetics is fascinating. Such a complicated series of factors interplay with one another in amazing ways to influence who we are, what we think and what we do. Yet we still have the capacity to make choices. And that’s really cool.

So I feel like the ongoing argument of “born this way” versus “show me the gay gene!” is overly simplified, a false dichotomy that misses the point. Of course, I am NOT saying that LGBTQ people as a whole decided to have a certain sexual orientation and/or gender identity. It’s clear that, at least for most of us, orientation and gender identity are inherent, intrinsic parts of us. (But if for some people it isn’t, so what?)

We make hundreds of choices. We choose whether to accept ourselves. We choose whether to enter relationships. We choose who we talk to openly about our lives as LGBTQ people. And we choose what labels, if any, to apply to ourselves.

Beyond being interesting, a question of curiosity, why does it matter whether we were born this way? What’s wrong with making choices, so long as our choices treat others and ourselves with respect? Those choices shape our lives and make us who we are.

Your feet would not be here if your feet had not been there—and the direction you choose on your next crossroads will determine where you find your feet next. Happy choosing.

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